One for life, the other for unloading: how men live for two families for years and why women endure it07.09.2022
Galina, 54 years old
Our story, despite the fact that now we are together and I am happy, is actually very sad. For 20 years out of almost 30 that we have been together, Sasha lived in two families. And only the last seven are with me, after his wife died of cancer.
We met when we were very young in the editorial office of a newspaper where we worked as journalists. He was already married and had a child recently. For a while, both I and he resisted the feelings, but they were so strong that both gave up. A romance ensued. But his decency did not allow him to leave his family. He repeatedly promised to make this difficult decision and stay with me. Once, when he was ready to say everything, it turned out that his wife was expecting a child again. And he stayed. We parted more than once, I understood that time was running out, and I was not building my real family. But, of course, nothing worked. We got back together. When once again he decided to break off relations with her, he learned about her illness. And I couldn’t leave. And I decided that I will give birth to a child from him and leave everything as it is. I was 36.
She fought cancer for 9 years, Sasha was always by her side. And I am with him. We didn’t spend as much time together as I would like, but I couldn’t ask for more. He adored his son, spent time with him whenever possible.